day two: my best friend

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Meet the next lovely lady.

I’m so excited to brag about her today:  Rebekah Rose Heffernan.  (she’ll also answer to bek, bex, boo, tweety bird, bekah roni and cheese, or nikki)


I’ve known her since we were little because our parents knew each other, but we didn’t become real friends until we were 13.  Isn’t that the perfect time to meet your best friend?  Every 13 year old girl should be so blessed to meet someone who they will be forever friends with.  Writing about her will be is the hardest for me because I am just so thankful for her friendship.

She emailed me constantly while I was away at college.  Cured my homesickness.

She made me go to a silly chili cookoff.  I met my husband.

She let me drag her around London.  We didn’t meet the queen.  But we did get lost.   We did get to use our umbrellas so we didn’t mind that we were lost.

She came to my house every. Thursday. night. when I was newly married.  It was a very lonely time for me and, without Bekah, I would have been miserable.  She didn’t even complain when I invited my other Friends over–you know who I’m talking about, right?  Ross, Rachel, Monica, Chandler, Phoebe, Joey.

She has watched each of my kids (and cleaned out my fridge) after they were born so that my husband could stay with me in the hospital.  And they LOVE their Auntie Bekah.

She brings me back the coolest gifts from her world travels and I tell her how talented she is at picking out the perfect gifts.  Her love language is words of affirmation and mine is gifts.  It is, as if, we were destined to be friends.

She plays the piano Marvelously.  The girl plays by ear.  It makes me sick.  Whenever we play the game ‘name that tune’, it is hilarious how bad I am at it.  Oh and if I get a line from a song stuck in my head, I just tell her and she can come up with the song name.  It is ridiculous.  but so helpful.  🙂

She, honestly, encourages me each day of my life.  Even when I get crazy ideas–you know–like writing for 31 days straight on my blog.  Or let’s do a 5K (no matter we haven’t run in 5+ years.)  She says–ok let’s do it!  And jumps on board with me.

Bekah makes me laugh.  She has such a dry sense of humor and the Best one liners.  She was (and still is) such an overcomer.  Life has thrown her quite a large curveball but the girl does not complain and she has not let it define her.  I am daily amazed.  I’ve struggled with how to tell this part of her story–I asked her what she thought and she told me, “write what you want.”  Such a Bekah response.

Right before we became friends that wrote ‘lylas’ (give me a break..we were 13.  ok who am I kidding.  Sometimes we still write that to each other.), Bekah got a severe case of meningitis that landed her in the hospital.  She was septic for quite a while, had breathing tubes (which affected her vocal chords), and ended up losing both of her legs right below the knee.  The girl is, literally, a walking (and sometimes running) miracle.  I suppose if you want to know that part of her life, it is best to get the story from her.  I just know that it was a huge moment in her life, but at the same time, it is amazing how that seems like such a small part of who she is.  A paradox, I know.

So when I asked her what her most life changing moment was, she answered as only Bekah would.   “I don’t know the exact moment, but at age 12 deciding to follow Jesus:) And then about a year later, the day before Thanksgiving Dr. Chaten changed my world. The first one is eternally life changing, the second one is just plain old life changing.”  Dr. Chaten was the doctor that told her they were amputating.  When she answered this question, no joke, I asked her what would her doctor do that was so life changing—I was thinking pediatrician or dentist.  Who can be clueless at times?  that would be me.

If you are a science geek and curious, like me, read this case study about Bekah.

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I also asked:

Have you ever taken a personality profile?

Yes, but I forget.”  Ok, I make her take these things all of the time.  She never remembers.  Such a last born 😉

What book are you reading right now?

“HAHAHAHA!  Oh, you’re serious?  The Bible (of course), Austinland, When Jesus Wept, Guideposts, a plethora of sermons.”  Bekah is the queen of reading the first chapter of many books 🙂  She loves Francine Rivers though.  That lady is a miracle worker for writing books that Bekah will read all the way through.

What were you doing 10 years ago?

“Quitting my job that I was sick of on faith that the Lord would provide….About a week later a friend called to let me know about the job I have now.  Oh and going to school.” Bek goes to school the same way she reads books 😀  I tease her about her strange sickness of always wanting to start school when the weather turns beautiful.  I know.  I don’t get it either.

Where did you go to school?

“Perry Elementary, Sound the Alarm Christian School, Selma Middle School, Wapahani High School, Ivy Tech Community College, Ball State University—No wonder I always want to go back to school.”  Bekah if you’re taking input, I think you should try out U of I next.  just sayin.

What did you want to be when you grew up?

“a mom”  We often joke that we are living each others’ lives.  I always thought I’d get a job and travel the world.

What has been your favorite vacation?

“ooooh that’s a hard one. I like different ones for different reasons. Probably the first trip to London with you…and then I loved my California trip with 4 girlfriends…and Arizona in the winter because, well, it’s arizona in the winter…And of course traveling with Sally.  I don’t like picking.  Every trip to KY.”  So indecisive!  Let’s just say if we are going out to eat, I’m always choosing the restaurant.

me and bek

arizona in the winter

What vacation exceeded your expectations?

“Hands down, California. I never wanted to visit there and was mildly scared of it because of the earthquakes. I did not expect the beauty that is in California.”  Her pictures make me want to visit…so beautiful!

Where did you grow up?

“Boring.  Losantville.”  I think she thinks it is boring that she never lived anywhere else.  But oh the places she’s traveled. Lucky.

Current hobby?

“taking care of my dad.  after my mom, I’m the best.”  Her dad has parkinson’s.  She is the youngest of 6 children and so her parents are older than mine.  I’m definitely taking notes because she is a great example of an honorable daughter.

Tell me something interesting about the last movie you saw.

“Unstoppable by Kirk Cameron.  It was interesting in the fact that 99% of those who watched it raved about it, but I found it to be poorly filmed and the script was not catchy.”  Ok, so I guess I’ll wait to watch that one on netflix.

What is your favorite song right now?

“Clear the Stage”

Finish this sentence:

Before I die, I want to “do lots of things.  LOTS.  get married, have kids, lead someone to Christ, walk behind a waterfall, visit everywhere and then go back.”


So that is my best friend, Bekah.  She is definitely the sister I never had.  I think God knew I needed a rule follower in my life to keep me in line 🙂  I’d love to hear what you think about Bek.  I think she’d get a kick out of it, too.

Tomorrow I’ll introduce you to a very special little lady–my daughter, Emily.


16 thoughts on “day two: my best friend

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  2. Contrary to what Bekah may believe at times, I have always found her to be an inspiration. I have known her many years and I cannot think of one time that I did not see her with a smile on her face. She is a true testament of finding joy in what God has given. Bekah never dwells on the trials of life but instead focuses on the things that bring her happiness. That is what is so great about Bekah, she doesn’t let the trials that she has faced define her. In fact, we had been friends for many years before I ever even knew about the lose of her legs and it wasn’t even Bekah who told me. That alone speaks volumes about her and how she sees herself. Many people would have used what she went through as an excuse to be angry at God or to not enjoy life. Bekah instead seen it as a reason to enjoy life all the more. She may never realize it but her life has spoken of the greatest of Christ without her ever having to utter a word. I believe, through her life, she has already led a life or two to Christ and doesn’t even know it.

  3. Beautiful article about our beautiful Bekah. I knew some things and learned some things. She really is an amazing person and I’m glad we decided to be friends. Great job, Rachel! It’s easy to see why she’s your best friend. You complement each other so well. Can’t wait to read about your Emily tomorrow. 🙂

  4. What an awesome bond you two have! Bekah – you sound like a peach. I’ve heard the name Bekah numerous times. Now, I feel like I know you a bit more! 🙂 A special friendship is such a blessing from God! I enjoyed reading this!

  5. I love Bekah to bits. She’s a beautiful person, with a great sense of humour, and someone I wish lived closer to here. I guess I’d only spent summers in the US before I ended up moving to OH and I think it was about a year before I knew about her legs. I usually don’t even think about them when I think of Bekah, or see her. You’re right! They are a small part of who she is. I don’t know why Scotland wasn’t her favourite trip, since she stayed with us. Lol! Actually, I thought she’d say Israel. I hope her special someone comes soon as, whoever he is, he’s wasting precious time he could have had with her. I hope she has that opportunity to lead someone to the Lord. That’s a wonderful desire!! Also, she should go to Niagara Falls. You can go behind a waterfall there. Visiting everywhere takes a while but when we can travel in a thought, you can go wherever you like and no air fares!! 🙂 You have a great best friend, Rachel!! Love your writing style btw. You have quite a sense of humour yourself! 🙂

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