day nine: bekah’s mom

Welcome!  If you’re wondering what all the 31 hubbub is about.  Read this.


31 days wide


Her name is Mary Diana Heffernan.  She is the wife of Jack Heffernan, nana to 19 grandbabies and greatnana to a baby on the way, my best friend’s mom, the mother of 7 children and when I am at her house she treats me like number 8.

sis mary

Mary was born and raised in Reading, England (the same little village where Princess Kate was born).  When I asked her if it was close to London, she said it is “southish” of there.  She has an older brother and a younger sister and so is one of those interesting middle children 🙂  She attended George Palmer Secondary Modern until the age of 15.  In England at the time, you would go to school until fifteen years of age and then had the choice of going on to, basically, a trade school.

At the age of 18, she met her “rich american” at a dance (even though he didn’t dance).  She says that she used to live to dance.  She would stay out so late that she would miss the last bus and have to run through the fields in the dark to get home.  It was Christmas time when she met her husband and they were married the following December.  They moved to the U.S. the following March.  They were supposed to move earlier, but her husband was in a car accident and was hospitalized and so they were delayed by three months.

She told me that her “rich american” wasn’t exactly as well off as she imagined.  They lived with his parents for a while and he was a sweeper salesman.  Of course, he ended up talking to all of the ladies on their front porches and possibly gave away more sweepers than he sold.  But they were young and in love 🙂  They will have been married 54 years this December.  They are such a Godly example to me of a marriage that stays together for better or worse, sickness and health, richer or poorer.

I love Mary for so many reasons, but ‘here are a few of my favorite things’ (in no particular order).

obviously, her accent.  her dry sense of humor.  her ability to make the BEST cuppa (cup of tea) Ever in the history of time….I am not exaggerating.  she gave me heat packets to put in my socks when I had to drive back to college in the dead of winter.  her devotion to the color blue.  her willingness to let me paint almost every room of her house.  her oreo dessert and her chocolate chip cookies.  her love of fish, ducks and chickens.  although, none of them stay alive for too long.  (it’s sad really.)  she makes the Best english breakfast.  her devotion to her family.  

and, finally.  This picture says it all.  Her curiosity 🙂

mary and jack

There was a fender bender late at night. Bekah caught her parents snooping 🙂

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I asked her a few questions while eating supper at MCL a few days ago. (If I am in Muncie, that is where we end up eating.  Go ahead and leave your jokes in the comments below.)

What is your favorite song right now?  “days of elijah sung by brother brian loch”  well, he is a pastor from scotland.  And I agree, he does sing it quite well.  but you’ll just have to trust us and listen to Robin Mark’s version.

When you were little, what did you want to be when you grew up?  “I’m not sure I ever thought about it.  I liked pushing buttons and working with machines.”  I think if she would have been born at a different time, she might have worked with computers.

What were you doing 10 years ago?  “well all of my grandbabies were a lot younger so I was probably babysitting a lot.  I know for a while I was going to Joy’s house every other weekend.”  just think of the memories her grandchildren have!

What has been your favorite vacation?  “all of my visits home.  I really liked the one with Nikki because she just talked about it so much and was so excited and was sad when we left.  And I remember my mom coming to visit me and how much fun she had.  But that’s not really my vacation is it?”  She is always thinking of others.  Love that about her.  Nikki is her oldest and I’m sure that was a fun vacation for them back to their homeland.

What book are you reading right now?  When Roles Reverse by Jim Comer”  Bekah told me that her mom will only read books that are true.  I asked her why she doesn’t like fiction and she told me that there are so many good true stories that she would just rather read those than something make-believe.  Don’t tell Peter Pan.

Tell me something interesting about the last movie you watched.  “The Ruby Bridges Story….she was this cute little girl and she was the first black girl to go to a white school.  She had to have her own bodyguards and her own teacher because they wouldn’t allow the teacher to teach both black students and white students.”  I’m definitely borrowing this movie.  I can’t believe I haven’t seen it.

What has been your most life changing moment?  “Giving my life to Jesus.  Of course, that all was after I had lost my second born baby.  I remember holding her in my arms and knowing she was going to heaven and I wanted to see her again.  We were going to a church that didn’t really have altar calls but at the end of service one day, I went forward.  I remember the words of the song were something about the blood and the minister in his long robes said ‘well one has felt led to come forward today’.  Then I remember a few ladies that I was in a group with came around me and prayed and I felt a change.”  I had never heard this story before and I loved that she told it to me.  She lost her baby girl when she was 7 months pregnant.  They named her Diana Lou.  I can’t wait to meet her in heaven but I know her mummy will be first in line.

Finish this sentence.  Before I die, “I want to see Rebekah married to a Christian man and all of my children saved.”  Me, too.  🙂


And so that is my best friend’s mom.  I’m sure Bekah has many more stories to tell, but I couldn’t get her to write this post for me.   Trust me, I tried.

I am realizing how blessed I am with all of the cool women that I know and love.  Tomorrow you will get to meet another…her name is Rachel.


6 thoughts on “day nine: bekah’s mom

  1. Oh I just love this! Our neighbor, Virginia (who’s 93ish, maybe 94), also told us she doesn’t read things that aren’t true. This revelation was followed by a look that said, “Who, on earth, would bother with reading trash like that?!” I wouldn’t put it past her to actually say that – but her eyes said it for her 🙂

  2. Made me cry, i love Sis Mary and Bro Jack so much. I’m with her in the last comment about Bekah, that’s one event I want to be invited to.

  3. She kills me. Her salvation story makes me laugh…am I allowed to do that?
    After I took that picture of them looking out the window she said “Uh oh, I think I just heard Rebekah’s camera.” HAHA!!

    • the fact that she called her own altar call? yes, I will allow you to laugh.
      I love that picture of them. Thank you for letting me steal your facebook pictures. Without them, I’d only have about two blog posts.

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